New Children Need Different Parenting Approach

October 7, 2009

Indigos are mostly born in 1978 or later

A lady we know has been having problems with her daughter. She complains that nine-year-old Shauna is extremely stubborn and possessed of a will so strong that it never fails to wear her down.

It always starts with minor disagreements over routine stuff like homework and computer privileges and attending enrichment classes outside of school; and often ends in tears and shouts of “I hate you, mummy”.

Not surprisingly, her parent’s friends and acquaintances almost always take to Shauna. They find her exceedingly charming—constantly armed, in any conversation, with an interesting answer, comment or question, and able to hold her own in most situations. Indeed, Shauna is intelligent, bright-eyed, talkative, and energetic, although slightly shy.

However, when she is forced to do the things that she has decided hold no interest for her, such as write her Mandarin characters or practise the piano, she can act up in dramatic ways, which becomes a real problem for her parents and teachers.

On the surface, Shauna seems like a disobedient child who is too playful for her own good. As parents struggle to understand and work with these strong-willed children, metaphysicians may hold the answer.

They would classify Shauna as one of the new breed of children now being born in large numbers, who are popularly known as Indigo children because of the predominance of the colour indigo in their auras.

Clairvoyant author Nancy Ann Tappe, whose 1982 book Understanding Your Life Through Color describes the concept, was the first person to notice this indigo colour in the auras of these children.

Authors Lee Carroll and Jan Tober explain, in their 1999 book The Indigo Children: The New Kids Have Arrived, that in order for these kids to blossom and thrive, they require a fresh approach to parenting—one that is based on unconditional love and acceptance.

Indigos tend to be strong-willed, wise beyond their years, see through all our hidden agendas, speak their minds, have problems with absolute authority, simply will not do certain things, get frustrated with systems that are based on rituals and which are do not require creative thought—all nightmare situations for parents.

Expert metaphysicians, like Doreen Virtue, believe that these children come with many gifts. “They’re here to change our political, educational, nutritional, family and other systems,” says Virtue in her book The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children.

She says that Indigos are highly creative individuals who think outside of the box—a thinking style that has created many of the world’s breakthrough inventions. Virtue cautions, however, that if an Indigo child’s gifts and brilliance are not understood and properly channelled, it may lead to them being wrongly diagnosed with behavioural and learning problems.

According to these experts, Indigos are here to perform big tasks that require distinct character traits such as a low tolerance level for dishonesty; the inability to conform to dysfunctional situations at home, school or work; and often a right-brain approach to life, which means coming up against a lot of brick walls in our left-brained world.

No wonder our children are having a tough time coping, and no wonder parents are having an even tougher time handling them. Old style parenting that demands respect on the basis of fear and authority will not work with these kids.

Indigos will not blindly accept rules and regulations meant to ensure that they ‘fit in’ to society’s established norms and expectations. And even the littlest ones are not bashful about showing their displeasure in this respect.

Nancy Ann Tappe indigo vision as perceived by Perfectblue97

Nancy Ann Tappe's indigo vision as perceived by Perfectblue97

This may help to explain why so many children today are being diagnosed with ADD (attention-deficit disorder) and ADHD (attention-deficit hyperactive disorder) and prescribed drugs like Ritalin. They tune out of their lives and have to be drugged into submission.

Indigos need a wide berth to explore their world and themselves. Unlike previous generations, they are far less likely to be motivated by material success and financial security. What drives them will not be what drove us.

This difference in values demands enormous adjustments on the part of the parents, many of who probably had stricter, more authoritarian childhoods. Parents of Indigos are being constantly challenged to reach beyond themselves and to provide for their children what they themselves may not have had—an open, tolerant environment where true communication can take place.

Indigos also tend to be sensitive to chemicals such as the pesticides in fruits and veggies, toxins in toiletries and household products, pollutants, synthetic materials and food dyes, additives and preservatives.

According to Virtue, they do better with natural foods, even though they may crave junk foods like burgers, fizzy drinks and french fries. Vitamin and mineral supplements may help Indigos improve their moods and concentration levels.

She encourages parents to provide their Indigo children with lots of opportunities to exercise and to get involved in a creative activities like photography, drawing, acting, dance or music.

Parents of Indigos need to be attentive listeners and to be free of all expectations. If we allow our children to gently lead us to places that we know nothing of, we may be surprised at the beauty and abundance that we find there.

Common characteristics of Indigo Children

1.    Strong-willed
2.    Born in 1978 or later
3.    Headstrong
4.    Creative, with an artistic flair for music, jewelry making, poetry, etc
5.    Prone to addictions
6.    An “old soul”, as if they are 10 going on 40
7.    Intuitive or psychic
8.    Independent and proud
9.    Possesses a deep desire to help the world in a big way
10.    Wavers between low self-esteem and grandiosity
11.    Bores easily
12.    May have been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD
13.    Prone to insomnia, restless sleep, nightmares or difficulty/fear of falling asleep
14.    Has a history of depression, may have had suicidal thoughts or attempts
15.    Looks for real, deep and lasting friendships
16.    Easily bonds with animals or plants

Source: The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children by Doreen Virtue

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